How is it even possible that I am typing this blog post? Where have the years gone? How is my baby SIXTEEN YEARS OLD TODAY? I am reeling at the thought of what today is and the significance it holds for me.
16 years and 4 months ago we were informed that the baby growing inside of me would never be born alive. I was told that I would have a late-term miscarriage or she would die at birth. Because we refused to abort her, the doctor who was pushing us to do just that told us “then don’t plan on bringing her home, plan her funeral instead.” At that moment, in March of 2005 my heart shattered and my prayer became…..”God, please….if you are going to take her please do it before I meet her.” Yes, I prayed that if she was surely going to die that I would miscarry. I mean, WHO prays for that? But, I knew that if I were to lay eyes on her and hold her that I might never recover from her death. In all honesty, those last 4 months of my pregnancy I grieved horribly. I cried, I screamed (yes, even at God). I couldn’t believe that this was happening……
But, you see…..in those 4 months God was preparing Dennis and me for a journey that we didn’t ask for, one we never would have willingly signed up for but NOW….hindsight 20/20…..a journey I wouldn’t have wanted to miss for anything. This journey has been H.A.R.D and there have been moments that I have wanted to crumble but the JOY and BLESSING this gift from God is to us is a JOY and BLESSING that I can hardly put into words.
Sixteen years ago, this beautiful, TINY (all 6 pounds of her), baby with almond shaped blue eyes, a head full of black hair and an extra chromosome entered this world and our lives have NEVER been the same. She came in this world fighting and she still is. She has changed me in ways that only those closest to me really see but she took a very selfish, self-centered woman who never wanted to have children and turned me into a woman who learned to put herself aside and who LOVES her baby girl like I never dreamed possible. I learned to fight and advocate. I learned to set boundaries. I learned to say NO. I learned compassion for others going through difficult days. I learned that the things of this world just don’t matter. She has taught me so much and continues to. I always say she is the greatest teacher I have ever had.
Hannah is happy. Hannah is sweet. Hannah is kind. Hannah loves people. She loves ALL people……we have always said that she doesn’t look at age, race, gender, sexual orientation, financial status, political affiliation or even religion. She just LOVES people. She will give the same hug to a homeless man that she would to the President of the United States. Trust me, she has hugged homeless men and women (much to my discouragement, but she didn’t care). She LOVES Jesus with her whole heart and her favorite thing to do is “Praise Jesus” whether that is in church or upstairs listening to the Gaither Vocal Band in her playroom. She knows she can praise Him anywhere. Hannah LOVES her mama! We went through about a 4-year period of time where she wanted nothing to do with me (I refer to that as PANDAS hell). She only wanted her daddy. Those 4 years almost broke me…..BUT GOD! He healed us and now…..oh wow, she is such a mama’s girl and I eat it up. She LOVES her daddy too but you know……16 years old and hormones…..she really needs her mama. Hannah loves her people…..family, friends, neighbors, our pastor and his wife, our church family……too many people to name but she loves so many and she talks about them and prays for them all the time.
The joy she has brought into our lives, the joy she has brought into the lives of others; everything about her is downright special. Her laughter is contagious. Her smile is mesmerizing. Her hugs are the best and her kisses melt me. She loves hard. She loves big. She has so much love to give and she does just that.
Yes, she isn’t “typically developed” and yes, I have struggled some with this birthday thinking of the “what-if’s.” You know, we would be buying her a car today, she would be driving. I would have to loosen those apron strings some and start allowing her to spread her wings. She might have a boyfriend and be getting ready for her Junior year of school. She would be talking about college and next steps. She would be going out with friends and probably wouldn’t want much to do with her parents. But, for us, turning sixteen looks more like dinner at her favorite restaurant (Gianmarco’s), opening presents (some new clothes, flashcards, school workbooks, reading books, educational games), probably a cupcake and the happy birthday song. Then a Sweet 16 party on Saturday. There won’t be a new car (although I did tell Dennis he could buy me a fun sports car instead, but I don’t think it’s happening) LOL! She won’t be driving or going out with friends or having a boyfriend (THANK THE LORD)! But, she will be surrounded by love, hugs, care and everything she wants and needs. And….let’s face it, in this evil world we live in I am perfectly content with her being right here with me where I can protect her for the rest of our life!
Hannah Brooke, you are so very loved…..we cannot believe you are 16 years old and I am so thankful God gave you to your daddy and me and I am even more thankful for 16 years that we were told would never happen. Oh the joy, love and laughter you have brought into our life! I truly wouldn’t want to do or be anything else in life except your mom! I am so incredibly blessed to have you my beautiful and perfect little angel! We love you monkey, so much all of our hearts!
Until next time……….