A friend of mine posted this on Facebook this morning and it hit me……we have all had bad things happen to us. For some people it is a series of events; one thing after another where you think you will never get a break. Some events are life-altering, some tragic, some are temporary……no matter what bad things happen though you have the choice on how it affects you.
I am faced with a choice in my own life right now and to be honest, I have been allowing the “bad things/sad things” to define me. I refuse to allow them to destroy me but I have allowed things and people to steal my joy and take so much personally. I am deciding here and now to allow these things to strengthen me instead. I am going to take the bad/hard/difficult days and use them for good.
I refuse to apologize for how I see things or handle things. I refuse to allow other people to control my thoughts and feelings. I refuse to allow anyone or anything in my circle that can’t be happy for me when something goes good or allow me the time I need to grieve when something goes badly. We all have ways in which we handle things in our life; good or bad. But, if you have a friend who is struggling and those are the moments you are silent and/or walk away….they don’t need you in their life. I am S L O W L Y learning that you don’t need MANY friends….you need just a few who are willing to love you and encourage you through your life; good, bad, happy, sad…..YOU are worthy to be loved. YOU have the right to be validated for your feelings. YOU have a journey that is YOURS; but you need to surround yourself with family and friends who will love you, support you, encourage you and allow you to be WHO you need to be and deal with things how you feel is best, so your bad times strengthen you instead of defining you or destroying you.
If you have people in your life who YOU are allowing to rob you of your joy and make you feel unworthy, unloved, lonely and like you don’t matter…..YOU don’t need them. Rid your life of those who aren’t kind, loving, encouraging and loyal. Having one or two good friends is better than a plethora of fair-weather friends. Hard but necessary lesson especially when you are going through difficult times. Don’t allow anyone or any difficulty to define or destroy you. Don’t allow bitterness or resentment to creep in (been there, done that and it is no fun).
BE YOU! You might not be “cool” or popular. You might not be as fun or quick-witted as others or be able to hang with certain groups of people, but that is okay. God made you uniquely you and you are perfect in His eyes. Don’t allow people to hurt you…..don’t allow people to dictate how you should feel or how you should handle things in your life. Sometimes in life, God gets us to the point where we ONLY have Him to depend on and sometimes getting to that place in cathartic. Sometimes, realizing you ONLY need Him and that you are strong enough to get through difficulties with ONLY Him is all you need to validate your feelings that YOU are enough. YOU are worthy. YOU are strong. YOU can persevere. YOU are going to be okay.
Yes, I am preaching to myself here but perhaps someone else needs to hear it too. People have NO clue what you go through on a daily basis. Honestly, most people DO NOT care what you go through on a daily basis. Oh but I know WHO does care….He created you. He loves you. He is always there for you and He is waiting to be there to carry you if you allow Him to. I don’t know where I would be without the Lord. He validates me. He loves me like no one else. He makes me feel worthy and like I have purpose. Those days I feel all alone…..I know I am not; because I have a Savior who loves me unconditionally and will never leave me or forsake me…..who else can you say that about?
Until next time……..